A Letter To Yourself

I've seen many of these posts around. I'm not going to write one.

I don't want to tell my younger self that life turns out not like she imagined, in a bad way.
I'm not going to tell her that she will be unemployed and still living at home at 25.
I'm not going to tell her that she will still be overweight.
I'm not going to tell her of all the heartache she's going to through.
I'm not going to tell her how lost she'll feel.

Then I got thinking; if I didn't tell my younger self all these things then I also couldn't tell her how proud I am of her.
That yes she will go through heartache, but come out the other side a stronger woman.
She will smile through the adversity she faces and encourage others to smile too.
She will have experienced so many things and have so many memories that having no job at 25 doesn't affect her that much.
That she can be anyone she wants to be.
She will 'meet' so many amazing people. Don't take them for granted.
She will re-discover God and her faith; that will change her life forever.

I want to introduce you to another girl with a letter, Mindy.

Hello! My name is Mindy & you can find me over at My Life As Mindy. I'm not very good at introductions, so I'll make this quick! I'm a High School Special Education teacher by day and a blogger by night {and most weekends!}. You can always find me with a prayer in my heart, a smile on my face and a large cup of coffee in my hand!

This year is my 10 year high school reunion {insert I'm closer to 30 then I am 20 sigh here}. I also just turn 29 {for the first time!}. I wrote this letter to myself originally as a way to see how much I have grown over the past 10 years, because I feel a person does the most changing between 20 & 30!

While part of me is glad that I those 10 years of experience behind me, part of me misses those days when I could just work, hang out with friends, sing in the choir and mostly just dream about life.
My life then was so different then it is now {rightly so}. Life is not necessarily better or worse then I expected- just different.
I know there are no take back or do overs. There is no way to go back then to tell my 18 year old self which choices to make, how to change or what to expect over the next 10 years.
If I could, here is what I would say.

  1. Your first boyfriend will break your heart. Things are not what they seem and you will make a lot of mistakes. However, you will survive and push on. You will become stronger, even when you think you are at your weakest lowest point. Just keep looking forward and learn from those mistakes.
  2. Realize that your dreams can and will change. Don’t give up on them or let people change your mind about them. Just know that they will change for the better and you will create new dreams as you move along your path. You will make your way back to your first dream.
  3. The flower shop will be the best job you will ever have, until you start working at the school district. Trust me. Don’t leave until then.
  4. The roles that people have in your life now will change over time. Some changes will be for the better and other changes will surprise you. However, everyone will still have a place in your heart.
  5. You will meet some amazing people, who you will wonder how you ever survived without them in your life. However, don’t discount anyone’s role in your life- because they are all there for a reason.
  6. Get to know your Mom, Papa Bud, Papa Rees & Grandma Rees as best as you can. They won’t be there in 10 years to talk to. You will miss your family daily.
  7. Embrace who you are and don’t try to change because you feel like people want you to be someone else.
  8. The man your Mom wanted you to marry {when you were 17} will turn out to be the love of your life. Wait for him. He is worth it.
  9. You inner circle of friends will be made up of an amazing group of women.
  10. You are beautiful. Love yourself the way you are and don't try to change it.
What would you be able to tell yourself at 18? Leave me a comment & let me know!

6 comments

jess said...

Awww, I love all of this. You two are such amazing ladies! {hugs}

There is oh so much I would tell my 18 year-old self. Mostly that it's okay that things don't go exactly as you have planned.

Adriana Madrigal said...

Aww, that was so endearing and sweet. It really moved me. Thank you, you two wonderful ladies, for sharing such a beautiful and honest post with us.

I would tell myself a million and one things about the past - I took a lot of risks and made a lot of mistakes. Some that still haunt me to this day! I would tell that little girl that she can still be adventurous without having to move so far away; that she should listen to that inner whisper saying to watch out. It's more right than wrong. And to be patient! I wanted to grow up much too quickly than I should have. It's a good thing you learn and do better as time passes :)

xo, Adriana @ Horses of Ares.

Evelyn said...

Sweetie!! I love both of your guys:)

I am in my 50's and when I look back, I would tell myself so much. How to just be happy and to stop wishing for other things:) Of Course to Dream, I will always Dream!! I still have hopes and Dreams even though I am retired. But I would not have become the woman i am today without the trials of the past:) So enjoy the trip and be thankful for the lessons learned even if they are hard.
And love yourself!!!

Rebecca said...

What moving letters, I don't think I'd even know where to start with a letter to my younger self, there are so many things I would like to tell her not to do, but those things made me who I am today and I wouldn't want that to change.
I tagged you in a post today, you can find more about it here http://taylormadehappiness.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/my-answers-to-lot-of-questions.html have a look and join in if you want.
Have a great weekend, I hope the snow isn't too bad for you.

Arni @ Travel Gourmande said...

This is an inspiring read. It also made me wonder and briefly think about it after reading this post. I'll most probably tell my 17 year old self to continue dreaming and keep the fire in my heart burning, to hold on.. no matter how tough it gets, and just enjoy the ride. I will not reveal what will happen and will allow myself to suffer a broken heart for I wouldn't be meeting the love of my life if I had stayed in that relationship. I will not change any events from the past even embarrassing ones because I have something to laugh about later.

Brianna Asaro Photography said...

Hey there - just found your blog today after cyber roaming. And I'm loving it! Can't wait to read more!

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